We all know those few lucky kids that have them, the “hoverers,” the parents that constantly check in and don’t let their child do anything by themselves. Yes, this does sound like parents who want to make sure their child is safe, but this not needed and (maybe) unwanted attention can have an effect later on in life: creating a more stressed out, dependent adult.
From the moment a child is born, parents worry about raising them; making them the most academic, athletic and generous child around. Sometimes, what they fail to remember is that the way a child is raised, will affect the rest of their life. Constant coddling, and attention make children dependent and to put it simply, somewhat “snotty”. If kids are constantly taken care of when they are younger and even into their late teens, they will not know how to live on their own as they grow up. This leaves them with no knowledge of the outside world as they leave for college.
Parents can also be the cause of copious amounts of stress when all they do is constantly look over your shoulder and pressure you. Whether about sports, grades or any other extracurriculars, this stress eventually takes a toll on students causing breakdowns, loss of sleep, and not needed worrying about simple day to day activities. This creates stressed perfectionists, striving for something that may not even be capable.
As much as we hope it isn’t true, we will end up adapting to our parents’ traits and using them when raising our own children. It’s scientifically proven.
“New research suggests that political socialization begins with parenting. Mothers and fathers who adopt an authoritarian parenting style (as opposed to an egalitarian style) tend to raise children who endorse conservative ideologies as adults,” said Krislyn Placide, Popular Science. Simply stated, the way our parents raise us will affect us up until the births of our own children.
So, this goes to say, that helicopter parenting will affect children in more ways than one, even years later on in life. Many students would agree–some space may be needed for success.